In our very last class of teacher training there was a meditation mentioned that I had come across a few times before in my Kundalini Yoga browsing. The meditation is called So Purkh, and it’s infamously said to bring your husband to you.
Pretty big, eh?
There’s more with So Purkh. So Purkh is a meditation meant for women to use to pray for the masculine presence in their lives. From my research there are several different uses for the meditation beyond calling your husband to you. If you are currently in partnership with a man, this meditation can “make him a saint”. It can heal the relationship you have with him. It can heal the relationship you have with any man or masculine presence, really.
It is quite a long mantra recited 11 times, which takes about 31 minutes. I follow Nirinjin Kaur’s recording that I bought off Itunes I think.
It is important that you set an intention before you do this meditation to direct the energy and to receive the effect that you want.
Personal Experiences
I just wanted to write about some of my experiences with this mantra. I have been reciting it for the full 31 minutes for just two weeks and a bit. I began the meditation May 26, just after some shifts happened in my relationship with an intimate partner. Four days later (of really intense dreams where I felt I was taking the place of someone else) I ended the relationship with him because we want different things in the relationship. I saw how much I really want a partnership and felt I really needed to honour that.
I also began to have to define what “Partner” means to me. I was asked it over three times by different unrelated people, “What does partner mean to you?”. It was eye-opening and I realized that to be in “partnership” can mean different things to different people. And it probably does mean different things to different people. I don’t view a partnership as necessarily restrictive but open to the needs and desires of each person but I feel the man in my previous relationship, and several of the men I’ve previously dated, have felt that a partnership would be restrictive.
As I continued to recite the mantra I came to realize that this mantra can be used by the feminine to heal the deep wounds of the masculine in all aspects of our lives and communities. This is a mantra that can be used every day but the Kundalini Yogini’s to help heal the deep wounds and traumas that live inside the masculine right now. This mantra can give the masculine hope, love, and a salve as they work through their own processes to be the men that so many women are calling for.
It also does something for the women. It prepares the women to receive the masculine and to hold space for men to be who they are. It helps them cultivate the field that they need to attract the man they are calling forward.
Almost two weeks in I ended up at a gathering where it seemed it was Divinely Orchestrated that I be there. I ended up there on Women’s Day, where Elders of various traditions taught about women and their power and about the different roles men and women have for each other. It was very interesting for me, who is currently studying deeply womanhood, and led to a very powerful experience.
I ended up being surrounded by men I didn’t know for a good majority of time the evening of Women’s Day. It was a challenge for me to find a fire to sit at where I felt comfortable and safe. At one of the fires I had chosen to sit around due to the fact that I knew some of the names and faces as passing acquaintances one of the men opened up the floor to me from across the fire.
“How are you, Serafina?”
“Do you want the true answer?”
“Yes.”
“I’m actually feeling extremely uncomfortable right now.”
“May I ask why?” After a pause where I was trying to search for the right words, he spoke again, “Is it because you are out in the cold camping? Is it because you are currently surrounded by men being the only female here? Is it a mixture of both?”
I nodded.
“If there is anything that I can do to make you feel more comfortable and safe, please let me know. I would like to help you experience that, here, around this fire.”
I began to cry as I heard three other men around the fire echo the same words. I felt seen. Heard. Accepted.
Just hearing that from the masculine presence I was surrounded by triggered a deep re-patterning within me – someone who has experienced various traumas around the masculine. I felt so honoured as the men gently opened space for me to share and bond with them.
I don’t think that would’ve happened so beautifully if it wasn’t for So Purkh. I had prayed a few days before while reciting So Purkh that anything keeping me from my partner would be released, and that is part of the cleansing out process I feel.
Just two days ago a man I haven’t spoken to in four years contacted me and made an apology for the way he behaved around me over four years ago. I was astounded.
I find my mind wandering a lot during this meditation. I’m not sure if its just because I don’t yet know all the words, or if its mean to wander. I notice myself thinking about various men in my life and praying for them. I think a lot about the man I just left and I pray for the man that will come into my life as a life partner.
No matter what, I feel that this meditation is powerful for me right now, and I can see myself doing it for a very long time simply because I believe in the healing that needs to occur for both men and women, and I can see this meditation doing that.
Meditation for the Masculine
You might be wondering what meditation men can do to attract their life partner. In my research I discovered that the Adi Shakti Mantra can be used by men to attract their partner to them.
UPDATE: I found another meditation that is said to be like So Purkh for men, which is wonderful! It is called Bhand Jamee-ai. Here is a Spirit Voyage Link and here is a Sikh Net link.
Links for So Purkh
What are your experiences with So Purkh?
alohaleya said:
this is a really beautiful post. thank you so much. ❤ aleya
Serafina said:
Thank you. ❤
Spirit Sorbet said:
A wonderful story and proof of the power of our words and intention. Stay well
Serafina said:
Thank you for reading. ❤
Afrika Bohemian said:
Thanks for the post, it is really great hearing your experience …
Serafina said:
Thanks so much for reading! 🙂
Afrika Bohemian said:
I have started the 40 Day ancestral healing Sadhana after reading your posts … keep inspiring
Livnam Kaur (@Lilan625) said:
I have been doing this since September 6th (now it’s the 13th) and I’m doing it to attract a soulmate, but I find myself throwing tantrums over men with no intelligence; men who bully women, those idiot soldiers in IS, priests who say women cannot be priests, etc. I guess this is a part of the process of doing SoPurkh, that my spirit is trying to cleanse itself from the misogony of some men. (Let me clarify: no, I do not believe all men are evil. There are many good men in the world)
Serafina said:
Wow. Powerful, eh? I would indeed think it is a cleansing process for you to let go of any hatred/pain that might come up in a soul mate relationship for you. I’m doing it again and am finding it is clearing out old subconscious and unhealthy patterns I’ve been playing out. Keep up the good work ~ It’s powerful. Sat nam.
Lona said:
I am with So Purkh since few days to heal the relationship with my beloved. We both got hurt.. I hurted him before, he hurted me on Saturday.. and I believe it will work out and we still will be able to be together as we were before or even better. Thank you for this post.. It gives hope..
Karl Fuller said:
Wonderful!
Livnam Kaur (@Lilan625) said:
it’s January 21 and I’m doing it again, Day1 was today. I just want a male friend, darnit! 🙂
Serafina said:
Hahaha! Good luck! That male friend will come. 😉
Livnam Kaur (@Lilan625) said:
Day 27 complete, WOOOOOO!!! I’ve found it’s easier if you count backwards: keep a journal, or note it down in your daily planner – on Day 1, write: “Sopurkh 40”. Day 2 – “Sopurkh 39”. “Sopurkh 38” and so on. It makes it so much easier.
Also, I’ve discovered that I still had the bouts of rage regarding those men in the world who don’t know how to behave. But after Day 20, it levelled out. That, and I was stupid enough to watch “Grease Live” and my head is spinning with “Those Magic Changes”…
Serafina said:
Lol, I love it!
I’ve totally gone through bouts of rage as well. I was actually surprised at the level of rage I felt and was so glad when it levelled out.
Congrats on Day 27! Good job! The subtle effects are amazing as you keep chanting! 😉
Livnam Kaur (@Lilan625) said:
I DID IT! 🙂 (and…now what?)
Livnam Kaur (@Lilan625) said:
No, but seriously… I did 40 days, with the intention of meeting my soulmate. And nothing has happened so far. I’ve tried tweeting Spirit Voyage, Ramdesh and Ajeet, and no one has answered. Isn’t something supposed to happen after 40 days? I’ve been given the impression that on Day 40/41, things would happen. Nothing has happened here.
Junie said:
Did you buy this mantra? How much did the author charged?
Serafina said:
Yes, I did buy this mantra. The MP3 is $12plus tax
http://www.spiritvoyage.com/mp3download/So-Purkh/Nirinjan-Kaur/ALB-001597.aspx
Serafina said:
Apologies, I missed your comments. I was under that impression as well, however many people who see the fruits of So Purkh do it for much longer than 40 days. I know one yoga teacher who did it for a year before meeting her partner. So Purkh isn’t just about finding your soulmate. It’s about balancing your inner masculine energy and about how you relate to the men in your life as well. If you keep chanting it, gradually you will come to a point where the perfect man cannot not be found.
Keep chanting! Recently one of my friends who did several bouts of 40 days of So Purkh found her man. 😉
Jenna said:
How many times are you supposed to chant it?
Serafina said:
You chant it as many times as you need to chant it. It differs with each person. Your intuition will tell you though when and how long to chant it. I have one friend who chants it with pretty much every man she has dated, which has been several, and only one man so far has stood the test of So Purkh we joke (they are currently dating). I chanted it for 40 days and then a 140+ streak and am happily single (with a trust in time and feeling of being connected that wasn’t there previously). So chant as much or as little as you need it. Feel into it.
Brida said:
Dear Serafina,
Your story is valuable! I am inspired by this post especially the “what partner means to you” part. I was asked a similar question one year ago and still have no answer now. This post reminds me to contemplate this again. 🙂 Thank you! Btw, I saw this post because I lead an online So Purkh event googled So Purkh. Can I share your post with link and translate to Chinese in my FB page?
Serafina said:
Yes! Thank you for reading. I am happy it inspires you. 🙂